Well it'sabout time!!!

What Do You Say???

God Said 2 Him:  I paired you together for a reason. You need to see what real love and loyalty looks like as a wife and this is her. It's going to get worse before it get's better but if you keep me first you won't have to worry about anything because I will provide all of your needs.

His Flesh Said: It's been some weeks and I'm missing your touch

His Love Said: You've never had this before, at least not like this.

His Heart Said: I'm in love with her, she just may be the best thing that has happened to me

His Mind Said: My circumstances are getting the best of me and I need some time to myself to get things together

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God Said 2 Her: I paired you together for a reason. It's going to get worse before it get's better but if you keep me first you won't have to worry about anything because I will provide all of your needs. You are not his savior I am, allow me to speak though you to get to him. If you really want to help build him up you have to let him make the choice that he wants you to; Until then cast your cares upon me and I'll handle the rest. Ive never let you down before and and I wont now. There's no situation or circumstance that's too big for me to handle.

Her Flesh Said: Everyday I'm not with you I want you more and more

Her Love Said: Something like this only comes once in a life time don't give up on it or question it's existence

Her Heart Said : This is your soul mate, I'll do anything for him but leave him, we've come too far to turn back now

Her Mind Said: What can I do to keep him happy and in love with me?

Dear Long Distance

 
I'm so tired of hearing people say that long distance relationships never work. As long as the couple believes that they are capable of a healthy, loving relationship it can be done. It's all in the thinking. If you honor yourself and your relationship it shouldn't matter how far away you are from your significant other. What couples may not realize is that, because you are not able to see each other there are some key things that must occur to maintain a healthy relationship. These are the same things that should be in all relationships but if they lack in a long distance one you may want to reconsider of this is something you want you put yourself and your significant other through. Below are some key factors that serve as a foundation for healthy long distance relationships.

• Communication
• Communication is everything. It is something that is important but if overused can be overbearing. You need to know your significant other well enough to know when too much is simply too much. However, it's the lack of this that can be very detrimental to the fall of a long distance relationship.
• Trust
• 1st you have to trust in your higher power. I believe in God, so for me, I've learned to put my relationship in his hands and allow for him to be the leader.
• 2nd you need to believe that you are meant for your significant other and that person it meant for you. Give yourself credit. No mater what the outcome of the relationship is, the both of you are coupled together for spiritual and emotional connection. No one wants to date someone who does not think that they are worthy of being a relationship to being with.
• 3rd you need to trust your significant other. So often we want to question everything our significant other is doing. We want to know the 5 W's all the time which makes them feel pressured. If you’re afraid you aren't able to trust, that's a sign that you need to slow things down with that person because you can not have a healthy relationship without it. 
• P.S. If you find reason to believe that your significant other is cheating, realize that it was a choice that they made and your now have a few choices to make on your own. Never down yourself for the actions of someone else. If they knew better they would do better.

For The 2 Of You

I took the pictures above first for a homework assignment and later to inform those who want to spice up their love life with their significant others. The slide-show will give you a few helpful hints on how to enhance a romantic evening for the two of you. Enjoy and best of luck ;.)

Sicne Food Is The Way To A Man's Heart....

How many times have you heard the cliche, "food is the way to a mans heart." ? It is true or a fabricated guess? Well it's time to be safe rather than sorry. If you enjoy cooking you should cook meals for your significant other. Many couples do not want to embrace the traditional relationship however, if night after night your man is not eating with you...who is he eating with? Cooking for your significant other shows a sign of humbleness and service. If this is something you have not been doing,  give it a try and tell me how this is working out for you. Above is a slide show of pictures I took while cooking check them out. 

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Welcome to the World Brandon

Congratulations to Alicia and Jr for allowing the world to experience a new baby boy by the name of Brandon. The week old baby has an irreplaceable set of family that love him dearly. You have already come into this world with many 1st's. You are the first great-grandson of Eva E. and you are my first male second cousin.  I pray that you embark upon your ambitious and that you never limit yourself to life's border lines and restrictions but that you take the morals and love your parents are sure to store in you and be the magnificent son of God you are destined to be. May God bless you!  

The First Fights

The disappointment that comes along with realizing that you have put yourself in a position where you have to decide between right and wrong; the conflict between your integrity and your character is always vivid in first fights. You want to be there for him but at the end of the day you know your worth and you believe your desires to be treated  as a woman are stronger than his apologies or the tactics that he may use to pull you in closer to him.  

First fights are a time to sit back and analyze if this something you are willing to deal with again.  Take notice to all the signs he's giving you. You can tell by the first couple of altercations if this is going to be something that has potential to be abusive. Ladies sometimes we spend our time over analyzing our first fights and issues when 9 times out of 10 your signification other has told you what the issue was about and why it made him feel the way he did. These answers may not always be logical and that is when you make your decision as to if this is a relationship you want to stay in or not, they will tell you what is on their mind. Listen to them, believe them and make a choice of what your next step will be. 

Chances are your first fights will feel like the end of the world but arguments cause for dialogue and allow for you to practice clear communication and to spiritually get back on one accord with God, yourself and your man. Speak life into your situation and use wisdom. First fights do not last forever.

R.I.P Precious 3.30.11 (My Cousin)

 I knew when I got that phone call at 4:00am it was immediately time to go into prayer. The Lord told us to lead not under our understanding...and I know this because it doesn't make sense to the naked eye and the flesh how someone so funny, loving and care giving can be taken from us so soon. I remember when you would braid my hair so tight Motrin and Tylenol was like a joke lol. I remember when you would give me advice on how to approach my dad when it came to girl like things and I remember being there to watch to baby sit my sister when she was first born. Cousin you will truly be missed and forever loved. May you R.I.P

Precious Scott

"Hey lil lady I don't know what kind of situations you've been in but I can only imagine because of some of the situations "I" put myself in. But I do know exactly how you feel because I'm the same way but one thing I can promise you don't ...get it in your head that you need it to survive because that's where your going to hurt yourself. Steven could not have put it any other way so I gotta put emphasis on it "DO NOT RUSH IT" let it come to you if not your gonna find yourself chasing it everyday and it's not going to be a good look..call me sometime, anytime." February 23, 2010 at 3:25am

Yesterday I Became Woman

I sit here reclined in this large blue chair of mine that indeed holds my petite weight. But in thought, I do ponder if it too could hold the weight of my hearts temporary ache. At times I wonder how a human body has the ability to obtain the mass of my ailing. A woman such as I seems to never know what is next to come, just only that there are more complex lessons to learn. Yesterday I learned that when priorities have been tossed in the air like that of a clown act, decisions made soon after only aid to amplify your pain. I never knew that about life. After all everything that I learned about males only came from experience but if only you will allow me to tell you about my yesterday, it will surely be my pleasure; for it was the day I became a woman.

Womanhood can be defined by so many attributes, this I am aware of. From the losing of virginity to the receiving of the menstrual cycle, from the acceptance of flaws in an unreliable spouse to the child support check, randomly lost in his new girlfriend’s Dior wallet. From the importance of loving your seed to the well cared for college daughter disrespecting her body, yet demanding your money using tactics of guilt and greed. “Who is woman?” The stages in which she develops her title differ. But when I became a woman, I finally knew who I was as a person. From that point forward tolerance levels decreased while expectancy levels increased and on yesterday my hearts palpitation altered the pattern and pace in which it normally beats.
  

Yesterday I vowed never to let man hurt me the way that he did. It was never physical but psychological and indeed verbally. I never read the signs. I saw them but I never read them. His love would be true is what I believed in my heart but as things began to evolve, I noticed that it wasn’t how it was from the start. Playing around, a joke here a joke there turned into him toying with my heart. If my heart were made from clay he would caress then twist, pull apart re grip and continue to distort its shape unless I pleaded or begged for mercy and this he did over and over but it was just too strong to break.

I never knew he had control over me. A fib here a lie there, he said he only did it to console me, protect me. A smile here a blush there until his connotative yet distinguished ways would no longer affect me. Sometimes when we are so focused on avoiding the things we do not want, we actually fall closer to them and then forget what we were attempting to alleviate and what exactly we were trying to distance ourselves from. With the understanding that no one indeed is perfect I now humbly loosen my hair still reclined in this large blue chair and think.

Yesterday told me when betrayal approaches the fan that you religiously place your face in front of for air and relief it is normal to expect a feeling of self doubt, pity and grief; But not me. I let it blow though my hair and laugh now. After all being a woman is about noticing patterns and constructing them to you likeliness. Womanhood derives when people take you seriously and respect your thoughts, words and opinions. Conversation with the masses portrays that of prayer and not bitterness, hatred and lack of class. Still I ask, “Who is woman?” I am. Yesterday told me so. Yesterday I learned that faulting self for mans glory will only speed up your short comings and down falls. I learned that love is not supposed to hurt but mend and create feelings of long term joy. Yesterday I became woman.

Still I sit here reclined in this large blue chair of mine wondering how it can carry the weight of my temporary ache and the mass of ailing from a woman such as I. I now shake my hair lusciously from side to side. Woman and I are now intertwined.

They Way I Used To Feel About Love

When it comes down to relationships everyone who knows me well knows I've been in some really fucked up situations. Sometimes it may even seem that lessons need to be run through over and over and over in order for me to get shit right. I've always been a strong lover. I love hard and I love quickly and often times my love has been mistaken for a game...a joke or to be insincere. But when I find someone that I like...I put him at the top of my list. I adore him and I treat him to the best of my ability. Now we may go through things that to others may look really messed up but if the two of us are strong enough and have courage enough to work things out I know things will be ok. This is whether we result to a friendship level, have a high and bye relationship or decide to speak no longer. When I'm in love you can't pull me out. You can pull me away but I'm just going to snap back until I find myself better off or tired. You may think this is not the way I should live my life. You may also think that I deserve better that what I've been getting; and although that may be true I have been praying for the one who will change my life since I was 13 years old. I wanted so badly to experience a love that would be fruitful and worth my effort along with his together. Have I found him yet; that I'm not sure of, but those who I really give my time to do have his traits, character, style and sophistication. Everyone wants to look out for Krystal and that I love...trust me I'm blessed to know that there are people that have my back when I'm in need but many of the occasions in which people have attempted to help me only made things worse. That's why I'm usually to myself. I often feel that if I express myself to someone who doesn’t understand that in the long run I will loose. Maybe that's not the mentality I'm supposed to have but that's how I've been all my life. I wanted to love so badly that shit that others look at and say nah that's not right I could over look, and remain content. Once again perhaps that’s something I need to work on but that's just who I am. I'm a lover and a strong one at that. Being in love keeps me elevated but when you’re in love w/ the wrong person you can too drown. And I've been under water for months now just hoping some1 would pull me up and love me back to my human self with a sound mind and a humble yet eager heart. I am ready for love but sometimes I think maybe its waiting on me to take the first step...who knows?