Dear Long Distance

 
I'm so tired of hearing people say that long distance relationships never work. As long as the couple believes that they are capable of a healthy, loving relationship it can be done. It's all in the thinking. If you honor yourself and your relationship it shouldn't matter how far away you are from your significant other. What couples may not realize is that, because you are not able to see each other there are some key things that must occur to maintain a healthy relationship. These are the same things that should be in all relationships but if they lack in a long distance one you may want to reconsider of this is something you want you put yourself and your significant other through. Below are some key factors that serve as a foundation for healthy long distance relationships.

• Communication
• Communication is everything. It is something that is important but if overused can be overbearing. You need to know your significant other well enough to know when too much is simply too much. However, it's the lack of this that can be very detrimental to the fall of a long distance relationship.
• Trust
• 1st you have to trust in your higher power. I believe in God, so for me, I've learned to put my relationship in his hands and allow for him to be the leader.
• 2nd you need to believe that you are meant for your significant other and that person it meant for you. Give yourself credit. No mater what the outcome of the relationship is, the both of you are coupled together for spiritual and emotional connection. No one wants to date someone who does not think that they are worthy of being a relationship to being with.
• 3rd you need to trust your significant other. So often we want to question everything our significant other is doing. We want to know the 5 W's all the time which makes them feel pressured. If you’re afraid you aren't able to trust, that's a sign that you need to slow things down with that person because you can not have a healthy relationship without it. 
• P.S. If you find reason to believe that your significant other is cheating, realize that it was a choice that they made and your now have a few choices to make on your own. Never down yourself for the actions of someone else. If they knew better they would do better.