The disappointment that comes along with realizing that you have put yourself in a position where you have to decide between right and wrong; the conflict between your integrity and your character is always vivid in first fights. You want to be there for him but at the end of the day you know your worth and you believe your desires to be treated as a woman are stronger than his apologies or the tactics that he may use to pull you in closer to him.
First fights are a time to sit back and analyze if this something you are willing to deal with again. Take notice to all the signs he's giving you. You can tell by the first couple of altercations if this is going to be something that has potential to be abusive. Ladies sometimes we spend our time over analyzing our first fights and issues when 9 times out of 10 your signification other has told you what the issue was about and why it made him feel the way he did. These answers may not always be logical and that is when you make your decision as to if this is a relationship you want to stay in or not, they will tell you what is on their mind. Listen to them, believe them and make a choice of what your next step will be.
Chances are your first fights will feel like the end of the world but arguments cause for dialogue and allow for you to practice clear communication and to spiritually get back on one accord with God, yourself and your man. Speak life into your situation and use wisdom. First fights do not last forever.
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